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Dear NFP, Let’s Be Honest.

23 Jul

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Dear Natural Family Planning,

Let’s be honest.

Sometimes I don’t like you. You frustrate me.

Like when I was so worried about getting pregnant right after the birth of my second daughter, that my husband and I didn’t get close, if you know what I mean, for about five months. Needless to say, this was not a fun time.

Or how my cycles have a very short infertile timeframe each month.

I hate how ignorant the majority of the medical community is about you. Sometimes it makes me feel embarrassed, like when the OB/GYN’s nurse asked me if you were like the Rhythm method. Or, even though my doctor knows I’m using you, she still tells me at my follow-up delivery appt. to use a condom until my period returns to make sure I don’t come back into her office with a surprise pregnancy.

But you know what, NFP? More than you (or rather, factors surrounding you i.e., my lack of knowledge, my body, others) frustrate me, I’m so thankful for you!

I feel blessed that my husband and I cherish and value the time we get together. I know that our odds for separation decrease significantly because we use you. I know that we’re being open to life if that is God’s will, even though we’re not trying to have another baby at this time.

I’m grateful that I’m not putting any life-destroying chemicals in my body that could also cause serious health complications and even my death. I am confident in knowing what’s normal for my body and would be able to detect any unusual changes or symptoms. I also know that if Adam and I feel that God is calling us to have another child in the future, it will be easier for us to achieve pregnancy. Thank you for being a method that embraces my femininity instead of trying to suppress it!

I’m thankful for people who have been able to develop methods using science and technology for more peace of mind. You are definitely not the rhythm method! I want to use you accurately (which, thanks to using the Marquette model, has been easier than ever), so that I can show people that you are good, smart, and 99% effective at avoiding pregancy. But as much as I want to do that, I’d know that a baby conceived during a typically infertile time would be a miracle and blessing from God.

I’ve been blessed with two beautiful little girls, who I can’t imagine my life without! Neither one was necessarily deliberately planned, especially the youngest due to a wonderful “mistake” on my part. (I should have waited the more conservative four days after peak day instead of three to assume Phase 3 – Thank the Lord, I didn’t!)

I wish more people were aware of, and open to, your goodness and benefits. God’s way is never easy, but it is certainly freeing! Thanks, NFP, for teaching my husband and I how to be more selfless.

With much appreciation and loyalty,

Stefanie

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Natural Family Planning Awareness Week is July 21-27.

For more information on NFP, check out:

The Couple to Couple League

iuseNFP

Women Speak on Natural Family Planning Series

Also, be sure to check out other NFP Week posts at NFP and Me!

Five Favorites (vol. 10)

18 Jun

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Happy to be back for another week of Five Favorites with Hallie!

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MAKE UP FOR EVER 5 Camouflage Cream Palette

MAKE UP FOR EVER - 5 Camouflage Cream Palette

I usually don’t spend a lot of money on makeup, but one of my must-have items is this concealer pallete. I bought it nearly a year ago and will still be able to get several more months of use out of it! I love how all of the colors are in one compact – salmon to neutralize under eye circles, green for red areas and blemishes, and skin tone shades. There are some great YouTube tutorials out there and those videos are actually what convinced me to invest in this product. I’m glad I did!

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PB&J Smoothie

Recipe: PB&J Smoothie - 100 Days of Real Food

This recipe is delish! It sounds kind of weird at first, but it is one of the best smoothies that I’ve had! My husband thought it was a little too peanut butter-y for his taste, but I had no problem with it! My girls loved it, too! I even snuck some spinach in there and it still tasted amazing!

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Clearblue Fertility Monitor

I’ve been doing Natural Family Planning now for about eight years. Two years ago, after my second daughter was born, I decided to invest in the Clearblue Fertility Monitor as an extra measure to make sure I was reading my signs of fertility and infertility correctly. I am pretty aware of my bodily symptoms, but sometimes I’d forget to take my temperature at a certain time or whatever and my chart would be a little incomplete. I love that there is a three-hour window each morning to, er, tinkle on a stick so it can check hormone levels. I’m sure several women reading the post are familiar with this, but for more information on how to use this product for NFP, check out the Marquette Model.

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The Four Signs of a Dynamic Catholic

The Four Signs of a Dynamic Catholic

I’m currently reading this book by Matthew Kelly, one of my favorite authors/speakers! I love what he is doing with The Dynamic Catholic Institute! Anyway, I’m about halfway through the book and there are so many great passages worth highlighting, as is common with many of his books! I really love what he has to say about prayer. I’ve been reading/listening to some great stuff on prayer lately and plan to do a post in the near future about this essential element of pursuing God’s will!

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Speaking of prayer, here is a great visual metaphor…

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Have a great week!